What if you really could control the circumstances of your life?
What if you were in complete control of every success or failure you have ever had or ever will have?
How would you deal with that?
Would you change?
If so how?
What would be the very next thing you would do, knowing that success or failure, victory or defeat was all in your hands?
I’m not saying that there are things or incidents that could pop up. Of course there are. Sometimes shit happens no matter how much we prepare. Accidents happen. Illnesses or injuries happen. We all have to deal with racial inequality, prejudice, politics, religion. Loved ones have things happen and life presents events that can pull us away from our path.
But what if…?
In fact, I believe we are in control. And I don’t necessarily mean in a physical sense. Or at least all the time. So I’m going to venture outside my little box (that comfort zone,) for a little bit and explore what’s been on my mind for awhile.
I believe that in a very basic sense, we do have control over most, if not all, aspects of our lives. We just sometimes don’t remember it. The way I see it is we do that through our thoughts, attitudes and outlook.
If we are consistently aware of our thoughts, we have a better chance of controlling them. And when we control our thoughts, we can choose their direction and hence, where we want to go with them. Or more succinctly, where we want them to take us.
The thing is, controlling how we think isn’t always as easy as going around and telling everyone we meet how great life is because we are in control of the way we think. Nope. It’s a whole bunch harder than that. You’ll figure that one out pretty quick.
Controlling your thoughts is being able to be decisive when you need to be.
★ It is being able to catch the negative thought that jumps up out of nowhere after you’ve come up with a plan.
★ It is being able to take a cold, hard look at what is going on in your life and seeing it for what it is without judgment.
★ It is assessing those circumstances or situations and not seeing them as good or bad, but instead as opportunities to grow in the direction you want to grow.
Gaining a foothold on controlling your thoughts leads to being able to control your attitudes about who you are and what you are about. When your attitude about yourself is strong and positive, you are better able to weather the storms of life, whether circumstantial, situation based or relational.
Take a look: Are you a glass half empty or a glass half full kind of person? Do you self-talk (and we all do, just some of us fail to notice it for what it is,) in positives such as abundance and prosperity? Or do you self-talk about whatever lack you have in your life, such as money, a special someone, opportunities and so on.
You see it is in my mind that there truly are things in the world that are unseen and that move with our opinions, beliefs and outlook. A major one for me is what is termed as the Law of Attraction.
Now there are volumes on this subject and like most things, the more you learn, the more there is to learn. With that in mind, what the law of Attraction means to me is basically this: What you think about, you bring about.
And also, just as important, What you Feel, You Create and Bring About. If you only think about your need for more money and that you don’t have enough, then guess what you are feeling and focusing on and hence calling more of to you?
The fact that you don’t have any money. And since you think about that and feel that you need more, the Law of Attraction that you bring about by your thoughts and attitude brings you exactly what you think and feel. And in this case it is less money. So you can think about having more.
It’s a pretty vicious cycle and one that is worth being aware of. And once you are aware, you can begin to change things to your benefit.
But understand, the change begins with you and you alone. And no one can make you see, or do, or want. You are in complete control, whether to take a look at yourself and be honest or not.
That said, we all know of some that have it going on and are running strong like a fine tuned high performance motor and getting it done the way they imagine it.
Finally, if you are always looking for the negative, you will certainly find it. And the opposite is true as well. For example, I moved to Tennessee about nine years ago. I had nothing left where I had been and so decided why not? If things didn’t work out, I could always go back.
When I got here I had the mindset of experiencing first hand that legendary ‘Southern Hospitality.’ And I wasn’t disappointed. People I ran into everywhere said things like welcome and enjoy your stay in East Tennessee. Things like that. And it made me feel all warm and fuzzy on the inside.
Then one day I was in a store and the cashier was a gal from the northeast. As we chatted, she mentioned how rude the people were, but she knew they would be when she decided to move here. And I just sort of stood there and said, “Huh. I find most folks to be pretty cool.”
I guess we find in life what we are looking for. In her case rude people. In mine, cool people.
So the way you look at the world also determines to a degree what you will find in the world. Keep on the sunny side of the street and you won’t walk in the shadows and all that.
What I am trying to say then, is this:
★ Capture your thoughts and by doing so learn to control them. It will make your journey to where you want to go smoother.
★ Take notice of your attitudes and how you perceive life around you. Keeping your mind open to possibilities allows you to grow in ways yet to be determined.
★ Having an outlook on life that is filled with wonder and curiosity will open the doors of opportunity. And opportunity opens the door to the abundance we all seek.
Thank you for allowing me a few minutes of your time.